The Fault In Ourselves

We think we are the best, better than all the rest

We seem to be in daze, unable to differentiate through the haze of what is good and bad, and in our lives we continue to accommodate that which  has been forbidden.

We seem to have removed the word modesty from our vocabulary and now nudity has become all too common.

And yet we wonder about every calamity that befalls us.

It is us who have brought Allah's wrath,
with our reckless ways.
Yet we seem clueless.

Our Nabi's (صلى الله عليه وسلم) sunnah we have neglected, and the way of his enemy we have selected.

Our role models are no longer Sahabah or The Pious, rather it is Actors, Sports stars, Singers and Fashion Designers.

We claim to be intelligent and smart, yet at every juncture in our life we are choosing the wrong path.

We are never ready to Don Hijab or grow a beard, we'll do these things when we're older perhaps? We seem to have forgotten there's no guarantee that we will live till we are Twenty let alone Sixty.

We have time to study huge books on biology and psychology, but reciting Qur'aan has become a thing of the past.

We can spend hours catching up on Books and Movies, yet when it is time for Salaah we are too tired.

And we hardly make time for dua unless we are struck with a calamity.
(Corruption has appeared in the land and the sea on account of what the hands of men have wrought, that He may make them taste a part of that which they have done, so that they may return. Surah Ar-Room, Verse 41)

We never stop to assess the impact our negligence has on our daily lives, we just don't seem to notice the lack of real Happiness and Tranquility.
If Allah is not the center of our focus how do we expect to achieve Serenity?

Dancing and parties have become a norm, and in participating we see no wrong.

We fall asleep with songs blasting in our ears, and we seem to have no fears.

We scoff when told to change and repent because "YOLO" is now the latest trend.

We spend thousands on all kinds of useless items , yet we hardly give charity because suddenly we don't have enough money.

We are quick to point out everyones faults, but we never contemplate over nor correct our own.

We are never satisfied with anything , we are always dwelling on what could've been.
When will  we start appreciating instead of complaining?

We crave attention and praise and reject any sort of correction because we think we ARE perfection.

Profanity has become a normality.
Politeness has become a formality.

We let our desires blind us.
And we fulfill all of Shaitans whispers.

Our brains it seems have been drained of common sense.

And we perceive the ways of the west
to be the best.

We celebrate what they celebrate (Birthdays, Valentines day etc) and we mourn when they mourn (for celebrities etc),
Its time we stop and think this through, for do we wish to be raised with them on Judgment Day too?

Our lives have become nothing but amusement and play and we seem to have forgotten about the Day of Resurrection and Reckoning.

Our minds are polluted,
not once do we stop and contemplate on all the wrong we have done.

Our path seems to be heading to Jahannam yet we claim to be seeking Jannah?!

Never forget your final abode, six feet down in the ground alone and covered with sand.

As scary as the thought may seem,
it's the only guarantee in this life.
Death knows no age or time,
Our souls will depart in the blink of an eye.

So be cautious which path you tread for one will lead to Eternal Happiness and the other to Eternal Misery.

What If

What if?

What if i keep saying I'm not ready, when actually i really am.

What if i keep saying no when the answer is actually yes.

What if i keep saying i can't when really, i can.

What if i keep saying I'm fine, when in reality I'm not.

What if i keep denying everything I feel because I'm scared no one will care.

What if i keep saying the opposite of what's true because i don't want to bother another with my problems.

What If?

What if i keep picking myself up every time i fail, when all I want to do is stay down and cry.

What if I look calm when I'm actually a storm.

What if I say I'm over it when actually its all i think about.

What if?

What if we are all telling lies to protect ourselves.

What if we are afraid to let another in.

What if we let down our guard once in awhile and let someone help us deal with the turmoil inside.

What if we are surprised and we find somebody like us, or somebody willing to be by our side.

What if we don't have to weather our storms alone.

What if all we need is someone to hold our hand through the wind and the rain.

What if we find someone who will show us light when all we see is darkness, and a rainbow when all we see is rain.

What if we find someone who will show us the sun behind the clouds, and the roses instead of the thorns.

And what if one day we stop talking in riddles and start talking whole truths again.

What if one day we are able to come out of our cages and express ourselves freely.

Oh what if.

The Best Kind of Husband

I finally figured out what kind of man makes the best husband (I won't say perfect, because no human being on the face of earth is perfect).

A man who has genuine love and fear of Allah.

A man who loves Rasulullah ﷺ, and follows his Sunnahs.

A man who loves the Qur'aan.

A man who reads about Sahaabah and pious people rather then sports players and actors.

A man who wakes up in the dead of night to pray tahajjud.

A man whose focus is not attaining Dunya but rather ultimately attaining Jannah and the pleasure of Allah.

Do you know why this man will make an Amazing husband?

Because he will look after you in the best way possible because he knows he is answerable to Allah if he mistreats you.

And he knows that Nabi ﷺ treated his wives with utmost care. And that He Nabi ﷺ said something to the effect that
"the most perfect believer in faith is the one whose character is finest and who is kindest to his wife. (Tirmidhi & Imam Majah) "

This kind of man will help you with household chores not because you asked or because he feels obliged, he will help you simply because it is Sunnah.

This kind of man will not lose his temper easily, and if he does he will stay out of your way until he cools down.

Because he knows that
"A moment of patience in a moment of anger can save a thousand moments of regret - (Ali Ibn Abi-Talib R.A) "

And he also knows that Nabi ﷺ said something to the effect that.
" A strong person is not the good wrestler, rather the strong person is the one who controls himself when he is angry- (Bukhari) "

He will not rebuke you if you do something he doesn't like, he will tell you where you went wrong, because he knows getting angry or irritated at you won't solve the problem, but keeping a calm head and addressing it will.

He won't sulk or be upset when you point out any of his bad habits, he knows you only trying to make him a  better person and he will do his best to rectify them.

He will lower his gaze, never looking at strange women, and you will always be most beautiful to him.

He will buy you gifts because Nabi ﷺ said something to the effect that
"Exchange gifts and increase affection amongst yourselves."

He will listen to you and advise you whenever needed.

When you have children he will be patient with them, and he will help you raise them, for he knows that they are an Amaanah sent by Allah.

He will remind you of Allah when you go through any difficulty, when you see no light at the end of the tunnel he never wavers in his Faith/Yaqeen because Allah has promised that
"Verily After every hardship, there is ease" (Qur'aan 94:6)
And he knows that Allah never breaks his promises.

He will not be lazy, or miserly etc.
And he will constantly seek protection from these things by reading the dua taught to us by Nabi ﷺ
"O'Allah i seek refuge in you from distress and grief, and i seek refuge with you from miserliness and cowardice, and i seek refuge in you from the burden of debt and from being overpowered by men"(Bukhari)

He will be fun and have a sense of humor as well, he'd practice on what Nabi ﷺ used to do - play and have light hearted moments with his wives.

Umar bin Khattab رضي الله عنه Said "A man should be like a child with his wife, happy and easy going. But if she needs him he should act like a man."

He will be handsome, because of his Sunnah beard, and he'll have the radiance of Imaan on his face.

He will be all of the above and so much more.

He will definitely be the best husband any women could dream of simply because of his love for Allah, Muhammad ﷺ and the Qur'aan Karim.

You can call me crazy or a dreamer but i  am sure of it that men like this exist.

But you know why we don't find them?

Because we are not woman who Follow Allah and his Rasool ﷺ.

We do not love the Qur'aan.

And because we think that that the perfect husband is someone who is rich, modern and Handsome.

Girls nowdays don't worry to find out if the guy is a good practicing Muslim or if his a Haafidh, but rather they have to find out if he's a Doctor, engineer, CA etc.

If we change our focus on ourselves then Allah will send for us these kind of Amazing husbands.

And for those of you who are already married, my advice is the same.

Change yourselves first, add into your life qualities of the Sahaabiyah, and go back to Qur'aan and Sunnah and you will see Allah will put it in your  husbands heart to change as well.

The key to a happy life and a happy marriage is very simple yet effective, we complicate it.
And we look for happiness and peace in all the wrong places.

If we go back to basics, and start following Allahs commandments we will all live simpler happier lifes.

Insha'Allah.

I ask Allah to grant me firstly the ability to better myself and to become a better Muslim.

And I ask him to grant all of us who are not yet married spouses who love and are close to Him.
Spouses who will help us become closer to Him.
Spouses who will help us to attain Jannah.

آمين يارب العالمين

Stop Envying

We always look at the people who have more then us.

We look and we envy.

And we wish we had all of that.
We wish we had more money

We wish we had a closet full of designer shoes and bags.

Or kitchen counters full of the most beautiful and up to date appliances.

We wish we could go for holiday whenever we wanted.

We wish we could do up our houses in the most exquisite fashion.

Oh how we look and wish.

Because in our minds we think that having all that will make us happy.
We think that because they have all of that they are happy.

We think that money will buy us happiness.

And maybe it will, to a certain extent.
A temporary happiness.
Until we get tired of whatever we bought.

We think and wonder, how did they get so rich, and keep getting richer?

We work so hard and we don't get rich.

Well what you need to do is change your thoughts, and change your point of view.

And you will realize that you too are rich. In so many ways besides money and fancy things.

Start looking at those below you.

Look at the person who only has one pair of clothing which is old and tattered.
And when you look back at your own cupboard you will see how rich you are.

Look at a person who has to live on the streets, with no roof or walls, no bed and blankets to protect him from the wind, rain and, cold.
And then when you look at your house and everything in it you will see how rich you are.

Start looking at all the things you do have instead of focusing on all the things you don't.

Remember that whoever you are envying they are probably envying someone else who has more.

And there's probably people who are envying you because they have less

The more you chase money and things of this world the more it will elude you.

Don't let other people's life distract you from all the wonderful bounties you have.

It might be that you are envying a person, but he might be going through some trial that you cannot see.

It might that he has lots of worries or problems that you do not know of.

And the more money and Duya you have the more you will want, you will never be satisfied.

So just stop chasing it.
Thank Allah continously for what you already have and Insha'Allah he will give you things you thought you could never afford.

Don't ever get attached to your possession for they are never really yours, everything belongs to Allah and he can take them away at any moment.

And always remember that everything you and everyone else has is not because of your own doings.
That is what Allah has allotted out to you.

You will not get more then what is meant for you.

So be content with it.

And Always say Alhamdulillah!
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My heart is content knowing that what is meant for me will never miss me, and what misses me was never meant for me.
(Imam Shafi'ee رحمة الله عليه)

And it may be that you dislike a thing while it is good for you, and it may be that you love a thing while it is evil for you, and Allah knows, while you do not know.
(Surah Al-Baqara : Verse 216)

“Always look at those above you for the Deen and those below you for the dunya.” [Bukhāri]"

Barricade

We all fighting some sort of battle on the inside.

We all trying to get through life without breaking.

But sometimes we dont make it, and halfway through we sit and cry.

But know that no one is perfect and there's a limit to the amount of inner torture we can take.

Know that sometimes you don't have to be the only strong one, sometimes you just need  someone else to be strong too.

Sometimes you need someone to see through your facade, someone who will listen while you talk, someone who will understand.

We try to drown our sorrows in anything we can find.

Books, Movies, Sport and Shopping.

But these only help temporarily and soon we find ourselves back where we started.

We try to cover up our flaws with make up and fancy clothes.

We try to make ourselves believe that we don't need anyone to worry of us.

We're strong we'll get through on our own.

This is a lie we keep telling ourselves, and eventually we start to believe it.

And we push people away.

When all we really want is for someone to be there for us.

When actually we just want someone to tell us don't worry you not alone, I'll be here always.

We make up fantasies in our head, of how happy we could be.

But sadly it stays just that, fantasies.

We build up walls so high no one can get in.

And often no one tries to break through , they just leave us, thinking we'll come out eventually.

Not realizing the wall will only get bigger the longer its left.

And there we are left to fight our battles alone .

Still hoping someone will come along, someone who will break through this barricade and stand beside us.

Someone's who will hold us up when we're about to fall.

Someone who will never leave our side.

We sit in our corner waiting, hoping, wishing.

We don't once reach out to anyone because we don't want to appear weak.

We don't realise that sometimes its ok to ask for help.

Sometimes its ok to reach out to another for comfort.

Because we are all human.
And at the end of the day, we all need somebody at some point.

A Journey

She stares at all the broken hopes and dreams at her feet.

Wondering if she will ever be able to fix any of them.

Tears stain her cheeks,
And the pain in her heart seems to get worst with each passing day.

But she doesn't notice it anymore.
She's become so used to the disappointments.

She's used to putting on a brave face and bright smile.
Pretending like words can't hurt her.

She won't break. She won't let anyone see the turmoil within her.

It doesn't matter how many times she is pushed down.
She will stand back up and dust herself of.
She will carry on.

She is stronger then she looks.
She's hiding more then you will ever know.

She will not let these setbacks affect her.

She will remain positive.
There is ALWAYS hope.

She will not give up.
She will not let people define who she can and cannot be.

She will build a bridge with all of these broken dreams and hopes,

A bridge that will lead her to a happy place hopefully.

A place that will be free of heartbreak and disappointments.

Free of harsh words and judgmental people.

Slowly, she starts her journey, brick by brick she builds her bridge .

She doesn't know where this bridge is going to lead her, but her faith tells her to just keep going.

Halfway down this bridge she realises where she's heading.

She is going towards Allah.

How had she not realized this before, that He is the only one who can repair what has been broken in her.

Only He can fulfil all her wishes and dreams.

Suddenly her spirits soar, and her pulse quickens.

She starts moving faster, eager to meet with her Allah.

She throws away all her extra baggage,
Jealousy, Hate, Ego, Desire.
The cravings of affection and appreciation.

These things have beem slowing down her journey and making her miserable.

Now that she is free of them she is lighter and oh, so much happier.

Finally a real smile lights up her face.

And she treads on eagerly, not stopping for anyone.

This is her journey to Allah.
This is her journey to Jannah.
This is her journey and she will walk it even if she has to walk alone.

A World of Problems

I look around me, at My brothers and sisters around the world.

And i see Destruction.

I see them in Syria, Palestine, Myanmar and Kashmir (among others) being butchered and chased off their land.

I see them in Egypt, Libya and Yemen fighting for a just rule.

I see them in Somalia and other countries, without food and water.

I see them in Afghanistan, trying to live there lives whilst war is going on all around them.

I see them in other countries crying because they have lost everything due to a tsunami, hurricane or earthquake.

I see them dying because of horrible diseases, and no one is able to stop it.

I see them being harassed for practicing Islam.

This is just some of the things i see.
There is so much that i don't see.
So much that i do not know.

I look at all of this and i thank Allah for letting me live in a country that is free of all these kind of major problems.
Alhamdulillah.

Yes, we have load shedding,
and a corrupt government,
And yes we have crime
(which is very scary, may Allah protect all of us).
Among other things.

And we complain about
this all the time.
But we don't seem to realize that these are actually minor problems.

We don't ever thank Allah.

Because we are not being brutally killed and dragged out of our homes.
We dont have drones constantly flying over our heads ready to drop a bomb at any time.

We are not being harassed or abused for practicing Islam.

We do not have major tsunamis, hurricanes, earthquakes and tornados.

The things to be thankful for outweighs the "hardships" by a ton.

When will we open our eyes?
When will we realize that we have been blessed, we have never been
put through any major tests .
We think we are suffering,
we think we have it hard.
But if you look around,
you will see,
people who are less fortunate
then you and me.

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And when your Lord made it known: If you are grateful, I would certainly give to you more, and if you are ungrateful, My chastisement is truly severe.
(Surah Ibrahim:Verse 7)

Toxic Temptations

I'm trying to stay away from every temptation.

I'm trying to quiet my Nafs.

But the whisperings won't stop.

Its driving me insane,
Its pushing me towards actions I am trying so hard to abstain from.

My heart has turned black from all of these sins that i have committed, its become hard and unfeeling.

Its been seduced by the world and its toxic pleasures.

I need to wash away the darkness with light.

I havto obliterate this evil that has taken root in my heart and I have to return it to its original pure state.

My haraam desires shriek, telling me to fulfil them just one more time.

And i am so close to giving in and committing the same mistakes.

I'm so weak, I cannot control myself.

I find myself wanting to slip back into this pit of sweet venom.

Oh what harm can it do, one day i will repent and become righteous,

One day when i am older.

This is the lie i keep telling myself.

And its working, i am deceiving myself, and i am repeatedly falling into Shaytans trap.

Even though it only gives me a sense of temporary bliss, i keep breathing in the fumes of evil, even though it is slowly suffocating me.

The thought of death flashes through my head, i see my grave closing in on me.

And only now reality dawns on me, i realise that i might not live to see tomorrow, Death knows no age.

What will happen if it finds me while i am indulging in these acts that have been forbidden.

I shake in fear.

I hastily reach out and i try to pull myself out of this hole.

But i find myself shackled and unable to escape.

I can see the light but i am unable to reach it.

Tears stream down my cheeks.
And my heart races in fear of what's going to happen to me.

I am Determined not to give up.

I lift my bound hands to the heavens , and i cry out with sincerity.

I beg Allah to free me from this prison i have created.

I beg Him to remove from me all the evil i have ingested.

I beg Him to place his noor into my blackened miserable heart.

I beg Him for his forgiveness for the countless times i have blatantly Disobeyd his commands.

When i lower my hands i am no longer bounds, my shackles have been unlocked.

This hole i am in begins to crumble and bright light filters through,

I find myself truly happy for the first time.

Slowly I am freeing myself of this dunya and its temptations

I am distancing myself from Shaytan and his evil whispers.

All praise is due to Allah!
Who has ignited this flame in my heart.

This flame of his love and of the love of Nabi ﷺ.

I pray that this flame never dies.
I pray that it grows with each passing day until it consumes me completely.

I no longer care what people say or think about me.

I no longer feel the need to please them.

They can call me what they wish.

They can think of me what they wish.

All i care about is the opinion of My Allah.

All i care about is attaining his pleasure.
All i care about is earning Jannah.


But you prefer the worldy life.
While the hereafter is better and more enduring.
 (Surah Al A'la : Verse 16 & 17)

Ghuraba(Strangers)

We do everything society tells us so we can "fit in" and so we won't be the "odd ones out."

Sisters dont wear Hijab, Niqab, Abaya or Modest clothing.

Brothers shave off their beards and let their pants fall over their ankles.
All because we think the western way of dressing looks smarter.

We want to follow the fashion trends. Because everyone is wearing a certain brand or style of pants or top we have to wear it as well

Because we think our dressing  doesn't matter, as long as we read our 5 daily salaah and Recite the Kalimah we can dress how we want.

The minute you tell a sister to don hijab or to wear modest clothing she will tell you
"Don't judge me. You don't know whats in my heart."

This has become so common, and it saddens me.

I am not judging you sister,
I am simply trying to help you.

And if you truly had fear of Allah and love for Islam in your heart you would definitely be wearing the Hijab.

We will go to any length to please society and to fit in.

Even if it means the displeasure of Allah, and disregard for the sunnah of Nabi ﷺ.

Oh what has happened to this Ummah that we do not care for the one who cried for US?

He ﷺ who sacrificed so much for US.

He ﷺ would stand in Salah till his mubarak feet swelled making dua for US.

"Ummati Ummati, My Ummah My Ummah"
That was His concern.

And now the same Ummah He ﷺ cried for is stabbing him in the heart countless times.

We protest when people draw blasphemous cartoons (May Allah's curse be on such people) of our Habib ﷺ.

But by doing these things they do not in any way diminish the light of Rasulullah ﷺ or hurt him in any way because they are ignorant.

We are not ignorant, we know what Nabi ﷺ has done for us and we know what a guiding light he is.

We do so many things on a daily basis that are in contradiction to Qur'aan and Sunnah.

But we don't care.
As long society is happy.
As long as we have satisfied our nafs (Desires).
As long as we are not the
"odd ones out".

But remember Nabi ﷺ said something to the effect that
Islam began as something strange,
And it will revert to being strange,
So give glad tidings to the strangers.

So if you are the "odd one out" because you Wear Hijab &  Niqab, or because you have a beard or because you don't participate in haram gatherings (parties, mixed weddings etc) or simply because you follow what Nabi ﷺ has taught us.

Then Alhamdulillah.

If your purpose in life is to please Allah, by following the Sunnah of Nabi ﷺ and commandments from Qur'aan, then you will be successful and Allah will raise your status in this world and in the hereafter,Insha'Allah.

But if your aim is to please people and your nafs (desires), then you will never find true happiness, and you will surely be disgraced.

Put your Allah and Nabi ﷺ first!
It doesn't matter what people think.

People will always disappoint you in some way.

But Allah will always be there for you.

So make sure you don't ever give preference to anything over Allah.

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Concern with this world is darkness in the heart.
But Concern with the hereafter is light in the heart.
~Uthmaan bin Affaan رضي الله عنه ~

A Bird In The Blue Sky

How wonderful would it be if I was a bird, even if it was just for a day.

I would spread my wings wide and soar in the bright sunlight.

I would go explore the trees and venture wherever i wished.

I would let the wind give momentum to my wings, letting it carry me higher and higher until the things on earth looked as small as ants.

I would forget every worry and every problem i have.

I would breath in the fresh unpolluted air high up in the glorious blue sky.

How wonderful would it be.
If i could perch on a tree,
singing a beautiful song
with the rest of the birds all around me.

Imagine taking a bath in a fresh puddle of rain, how cool and refreshing would that be.

Or watching the sunset while flying across the sea.

I would build a nest on a branch high up in a beautiful tree, so that i could watch the world down below go by me.

I might even take a late night flight, up, up towards the moon which is shining so bright.

Oh!
My mind cannot fathom how Absolutely Amazing it would be if i could be a bird, even if just for a day.

Light Of The Skies

I look out my window, and I see the Full moon shining in all its glory.

Oh what a wonderful spectacle it is, its light so bright and so beautiful .

I see the stars, shining beside it, they are so small in comparison, yet they do not let its light overshadow them.

Each star is unique,
Each one different.
Each one so beautiful.

I look at the black sky all around, and i marvel at the perfection of Allah's creation.

Had the sky been any other colour the Moon and Stars would have lost there splendour.

I turn away from my window and go to bed.

When I peep through the curtains after Fajr prayer, the view has changed, the moon & stars are no longer visible, the sky is changing colour.

Its is soft grey, tinted with orange and pink. The sun is about to rise.

I open the curtains wide in the morning and I am blinded by the dazzling Sun light.

I see the blue sky and puffy white clouds floating around.

I hear the birds chirping and i feel the cool breeze when i open the window.

I am absolutely awestruck by the efficiency of it all, how the night turns subtly into day.
Not once is there any delay.

Oh My eyes cannot believe what they see.
How did i not notice all this beauty before?

It seems that even though i had sight, i could not see.

I could not see that Allah is all around me.

Surely We have adorned the nearest heaven with an adornment, the stars,
(As-Saaffat: Verse 6)