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Don't Be Bitter. Be Better

People will hurt you, in a variety of different ways..
Sometimes knowingly and other times unknowingly..
But, no matter what other people may do too you, or how they behave towards you, you should never be nasty to them or do the same bad things to them..
Why you may ask?
Because we should be the better person, the better Muslim.
Follow the example of our Nabi ﷺ, he preferred to forgive people rather then to take revenge. He forgave people no matter how nasty they had been to him.

Rasoolullah ﷺ said,
"You do not do evil to those who do evil to you, but you deal with them with forgiveness and kindness." (Bukhari)

We should strive to do the same. Forgive, no Matter how hard it is (and yes i know it can be really hard), be nice to the person no matter how horrible they are to you..
Never wish bad or make bad duas for anyone.
Because we will be answerable for everything we say and do.
If they hurt us, they will be answerable and not us..
But if we then go and cause the same hurt or worse to them then we're answerable too.
And that makes us the same as them, or worse perhaps.
Its better not to retaliate, in any way whatsoever, leave it in the hands of Allah.

It is narrated that once A person started verbally abusing Hadhrat Abu Bakr (Radi-Allahu-Anhu) while Rasoolullah ﷺ was also sitting there.  Because Hadhrat Abu Bakr (Radi-Allahu-Anhu) gave no reply Rasoolullah ﷺ was impressed and kept smiling. However, when the persons abuse became too much, Hadhrat Abu Bakr (Radi-Allahu-Anhu) replied some of what he was saying. This angered Rasoolullah ﷺ and he left. Hadhrat Abu Bakr (Radi-Allahu-Anhu)  then met Rasoolullah ﷺ and asked, "O Rasoolullah ﷺ! You were sitting there while he was swearing at me but when i replied to some of his abuse, you became angry and left?"  Rasoolullah ﷺ replied, "There was an angel with you who was responding on your behalf. However, when you started replying to some of his abuse, shaytaan arrived and I could not sit with shaytaan."

We learn from this that no matter what people say or how much they may abuse or insult you (whether it is in your presence or your absence) remain silent and don't ever try to go after them or retaliate...
Allah will retaliate on your behalf Insha'Allah.
We also learn that no matter who you are, you'll always get people who will not like you. Subhan'Allah, how great was Abu Bakr (Radi-Allahu-Anhu), yet this person was swearing and shouting at him.
If a person as wonderful and good as him had people who disliked him, then obviously we to will encounter such people.

But no matter what, don't allow people to make you bitter and nasty.
Guard your tongue, though it is small the damage it causes is huge, and sometimes irreparable.

"The tongue is like a lion, if you let it lose it will wound someone -  Ali Ibn Abi Taalib (Radi-Allahu-Anhu)"

Don't mention the faults of others.
Dont lie, Don't backbite,  Don't slander etc.
Think before you speak.
We all have and continue to just talk without thinking, we are so careless. (may Allah forgive me first and everyone else).

"Hadhrat Abu Moosa Al Ash'ari Radi-Allahu-Anhu reports that some people asked Rasoolullah ﷺ, "Whose Islam is the best (who is the best Muslim)?" Rasoolullah ﷺ replied, "The one from whose tongue and hands the Muslims are safe." (Bukhari)

"Whosoever protects ones tongue from mentioning the fault of another, Allah will conceal his faults." (Mishkaat)

The world needs more kind people, more people who wish good for others, more people who are willing to forgive.
Soften your heart, be good no matter what others do, don't let them change you.
Our Beloved ﷺ has set a perfect way of life for us to follow.
Yes we are weak, And we often cannot or do not follow it. But Insha'Allah we can aim to amullate him in as many ways possible.

Always strive to be a better person and a better Muslim.
Dont let others influence you with bad habits and traits. Keep good company.
And when you do come across people who are nasty, give them a huge smile and be extra nice, extra kind and extra caring towards them, Insha'Allah you will be rewarded for your goodness and Insha'Allah they will get influenced and change their ways..

Rasoolullah ﷺ said
"None of you truly believe until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself." (Bukhari)

Rasoolullah ﷺ Said,
"I guarantee a house in Jannah for one who gives up arguing, even if he is right; and i Guarantee a house in Jannah for one who gives up lying even for the sake of fun; and I guarantee a house in the highest part of Jannah for one who has good manners. (Abu Dawood)

وَجَعَلْنَا بَعْضَكُمْ لِبَعْضٍ فِتْنَةً أَتَصْبِرُونَ وَكَانَ رَبُّكَ بَصِيرًا
"And We have made some of you a trial for others; will you bear patiently? And your Lord is ever Seeing."(Surah Furqan:Verse 20)

May Allah grant me first the ability to practice and everyone else.. Aameen

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