Wednesday, March 25, 2015

The Fault In Ourselves

We think we are the best, better than all the rest

We seem to be in daze, unable to differentiate through the haze of what is good and bad, and in our lives we continue to accommodate that which  has been forbidden.

We seem to have removed the word modesty from our vocabulary and now nudity has become all too common.

And yet we wonder about every calamity that befalls us.

It is us who have brought Allah's wrath,
with our reckless ways.
Yet we seem clueless.

Our Nabi's (صلى الله عليه وسلم) sunnah we have neglected, and the way of his enemy we have selected.

Our role models are no longer Sahabah or The Pious, rather it is Actors, Sports stars, Singers and Fashion Designers.

We claim to be intelligent and smart, yet at every juncture in our life we are choosing the wrong path.

We are never ready to Don Hijab or grow a beard, we'll do these things when we're older perhaps? We seem to have forgotten there's no guarantee that we will live till we are Twenty let alone Sixty.

We have time to study huge books on biology and psychology, but reciting Qur'aan has become a thing of the past.

We can spend hours catching up on Books and Movies, yet when it is time for Salaah we are too tired.

And we hardly make time for dua unless we are struck with a calamity.
(Corruption has appeared in the land and the sea on account of what the hands of men have wrought, that He may make them taste a part of that which they have done, so that they may return. Surah Ar-Room, Verse 41)

We never stop to assess the impact our negligence has on our daily lives, we just don't seem to notice the lack of real Happiness and Tranquility.
If Allah is not the center of our focus how do we expect to achieve Serenity?

Dancing and parties have become a norm, and in participating we see no wrong.

We fall asleep with songs blasting in our ears, and we seem to have no fears.

We scoff when told to change and repent because "YOLO" is now the latest trend.

We spend thousands on all kinds of useless items , yet we hardly give charity because suddenly we don't have enough money.

We are quick to point out everyones faults, but we never contemplate over nor correct our own.

We are never satisfied with anything , we are always dwelling on what could've been.
When will  we start appreciating instead of complaining?

We crave attention and praise and reject any sort of correction because we think we ARE perfection.

Profanity has become a normality.
Politeness has become a formality.

We let our desires blind us.
And we fulfill all of Shaitans whispers.

Our brains it seems have been drained of common sense.

And we perceive the ways of the west
to be the best.

We celebrate what they celebrate (Birthdays, Valentines day etc) and we mourn when they mourn (for celebrities etc),
Its time we stop and think this through, for do we wish to be raised with them on Judgment Day too?

Our lives have become nothing but amusement and play and we seem to have forgotten about the Day of Resurrection and Reckoning.

Our minds are polluted,
not once do we stop and contemplate on all the wrong we have done.

Our path seems to be heading to Jahannam yet we claim to be seeking Jannah?!

Never forget your final abode, six feet down in the ground alone and covered with sand.

As scary as the thought may seem,
it's the only guarantee in this life.
Death knows no age or time,
Our souls will depart in the blink of an eye.

So be cautious which path you tread for one will lead to Eternal Happiness and the other to Eternal Misery.

Monday, March 16, 2015

What If

What if?

What if i keep saying I'm not ready, when actually i really am.

What if i keep saying no when the answer is actually yes.

What if i keep saying i can't when really, i can.

What if i keep saying I'm fine, when in reality I'm not.

What if i keep denying everything I feel because I'm scared no one will care.

What if i keep saying the opposite of what's true because i don't want to bother another with my problems.

What If?

What if i keep picking myself up every time i fail, when all I want to do is stay down and cry.

What if I look calm when I'm actually a storm.

What if I say I'm over it when actually its all i think about.

What if?

What if we are all telling lies to protect ourselves.

What if we are afraid to let another in.

What if we let down our guard once in awhile and let someone help us deal with the turmoil inside.

What if we are surprised and we find somebody like us, or somebody willing to be by our side.

What if we don't have to weather our storms alone.

What if all we need is someone to hold our hand through the wind and the rain.

What if we find someone who will show us light when all we see is darkness, and a rainbow when all we see is rain.

What if we find someone who will show us the sun behind the clouds, and the roses instead of the thorns.

And what if one day we stop talking in riddles and start talking whole truths again.

What if one day we are able to come out of our cages and express ourselves freely.

Oh what if.

Wednesday, March 4, 2015

The Best Kind of Husband

I finally figured out what kind of man makes the best husband (I won't say perfect, because no human being on the face of earth is perfect).

A man who has genuine love and fear of Allah.

A man who loves Rasulullah ﷺ, and follows his Sunnahs.

A man who loves the Qur'aan.

A man who reads about Sahaabah and pious people rather then sports players and actors.

A man who wakes up in the dead of night to pray tahajjud.

A man whose focus is not attaining Dunya but rather ultimately attaining Jannah and the pleasure of Allah.

Do you know why this man will make an Amazing husband?

Because he will look after you in the best way possible because he knows he is answerable to Allah if he mistreats you.

And he knows that Nabi ﷺ treated his wives with utmost care. And that He Nabi ﷺ said something to the effect that
"the most perfect believer in faith is the one whose character is finest and who is kindest to his wife. (Tirmidhi & Imam Majah) "

This kind of man will help you with household chores not because you asked or because he feels obliged, he will help you simply because it is Sunnah.

This kind of man will not lose his temper easily, and if he does he will stay out of your way until he cools down.

Because he knows that
"A moment of patience in a moment of anger can save a thousand moments of regret - (Ali Ibn Abi-Talib R.A) "

And he also knows that Nabi ﷺ said something to the effect that.
" A strong person is not the good wrestler, rather the strong person is the one who controls himself when he is angry- (Bukhari) "

He will not rebuke you if you do something he doesn't like, he will tell you where you went wrong, because he knows getting angry or irritated at you won't solve the problem, but keeping a calm head and addressing it will.

He won't sulk or be upset when you point out any of his bad habits, he knows you only trying to make him a  better person and he will do his best to rectify them.

He will lower his gaze, never looking at strange women, and you will always be most beautiful to him.

He will buy you gifts because Nabi ﷺ said something to the effect that
"Exchange gifts and increase affection amongst yourselves."

He will listen to you and advise you whenever needed.

When you have children he will be patient with them, and he will help you raise them, for he knows that they are an Amaanah sent by Allah.

He will remind you of Allah when you go through any difficulty, when you see no light at the end of the tunnel he never wavers in his Faith/Yaqeen because Allah has promised that
"Verily After every hardship, there is ease" (Qur'aan 94:6)
And he knows that Allah never breaks his promises.

He will not be lazy, or miserly etc.
And he will constantly seek protection from these things by reading the dua taught to us by Nabi ﷺ
"O'Allah i seek refuge in you from distress and grief, and i seek refuge with you from miserliness and cowardice, and i seek refuge in you from the burden of debt and from being overpowered by men"(Bukhari)

He will be fun and have a sense of humor as well, he'd practice on what Nabi ﷺ used to do - play and have light hearted moments with his wives.

Umar bin Khattab رضي الله عنه Said "A man should be like a child with his wife, happy and easy going. But if she needs him he should act like a man."

He will be handsome, because of his Sunnah beard, and he'll have the radiance of Imaan on his face.

He will be all of the above and so much more.

He will definitely be the best husband any women could dream of simply because of his love for Allah, Muhammad ﷺ and the Qur'aan Karim.

You can call me crazy or a dreamer but i  am sure of it that men like this exist.

But you know why we don't find them?

Because we are not woman who Follow Allah and his Rasool ﷺ.

We do not love the Qur'aan.

And because we think that that the perfect husband is someone who is rich, modern and Handsome.

Girls nowdays don't worry to find out if the guy is a good practicing Muslim or if his a Haafidh, but rather they have to find out if he's a Doctor, engineer, CA etc.

If we change our focus on ourselves then Allah will send for us these kind of Amazing husbands.

And for those of you who are already married, my advice is the same.

Change yourselves first, add into your life qualities of the Sahaabiyah, and go back to Qur'aan and Sunnah and you will see Allah will put it in your  husbands heart to change as well.

The key to a happy life and a happy marriage is very simple yet effective, we complicate it.
And we look for happiness and peace in all the wrong places.

If we go back to basics, and start following Allahs commandments we will all live simpler happier lifes.

Insha'Allah.

I ask Allah to grant me firstly the ability to better myself and to become a better Muslim.

And I ask him to grant all of us who are not yet married spouses who love and are close to Him.
Spouses who will help us become closer to Him.
Spouses who will help us to attain Jannah.

آمين يارب العالمين

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