Wednesday, March 4, 2015

The Best Kind of Husband

I finally figured out what kind of man makes the best husband (I won't say perfect, because no human being on the face of earth is perfect).

A man who has genuine love and fear of Allah.

A man who loves Rasulullah ﷺ, and follows his Sunnahs.

A man who loves the Qur'aan.

A man who reads about Sahaabah and pious people rather then sports players and actors.

A man who wakes up in the dead of night to pray tahajjud.

A man whose focus is not attaining Dunya but rather ultimately attaining Jannah and the pleasure of Allah.

Do you know why this man will make an Amazing husband?

Because he will look after you in the best way possible because he knows he is answerable to Allah if he mistreats you.

And he knows that Nabi ﷺ treated his wives with utmost care. And that He Nabi ﷺ said something to the effect that
"the most perfect believer in faith is the one whose character is finest and who is kindest to his wife. (Tirmidhi & Imam Majah) "

This kind of man will help you with household chores not because you asked or because he feels obliged, he will help you simply because it is Sunnah.

This kind of man will not lose his temper easily, and if he does he will stay out of your way until he cools down.

Because he knows that
"A moment of patience in a moment of anger can save a thousand moments of regret - (Ali Ibn Abi-Talib R.A) "

And he also knows that Nabi ﷺ said something to the effect that.
" A strong person is not the good wrestler, rather the strong person is the one who controls himself when he is angry- (Bukhari) "

He will not rebuke you if you do something he doesn't like, he will tell you where you went wrong, because he knows getting angry or irritated at you won't solve the problem, but keeping a calm head and addressing it will.

He won't sulk or be upset when you point out any of his bad habits, he knows you only trying to make him a  better person and he will do his best to rectify them.

He will lower his gaze, never looking at strange women, and you will always be most beautiful to him.

He will buy you gifts because Nabi ﷺ said something to the effect that
"Exchange gifts and increase affection amongst yourselves."

He will listen to you and advise you whenever needed.

When you have children he will be patient with them, and he will help you raise them, for he knows that they are an Amaanah sent by Allah.

He will remind you of Allah when you go through any difficulty, when you see no light at the end of the tunnel he never wavers in his Faith/Yaqeen because Allah has promised that
"Verily After every hardship, there is ease" (Qur'aan 94:6)
And he knows that Allah never breaks his promises.

He will not be lazy, or miserly etc.
And he will constantly seek protection from these things by reading the dua taught to us by Nabi ﷺ
"O'Allah i seek refuge in you from distress and grief, and i seek refuge with you from miserliness and cowardice, and i seek refuge in you from the burden of debt and from being overpowered by men"(Bukhari)

He will be fun and have a sense of humor as well, he'd practice on what Nabi ﷺ used to do - play and have light hearted moments with his wives.

Umar bin Khattab رضي الله عنه Said "A man should be like a child with his wife, happy and easy going. But if she needs him he should act like a man."

He will be handsome, because of his Sunnah beard, and he'll have the radiance of Imaan on his face.

He will be all of the above and so much more.

He will definitely be the best husband any women could dream of simply because of his love for Allah, Muhammad ﷺ and the Qur'aan Karim.

You can call me crazy or a dreamer but i  am sure of it that men like this exist.

But you know why we don't find them?

Because we are not woman who Follow Allah and his Rasool ﷺ.

We do not love the Qur'aan.

And because we think that that the perfect husband is someone who is rich, modern and Handsome.

Girls nowdays don't worry to find out if the guy is a good practicing Muslim or if his a Haafidh, but rather they have to find out if he's a Doctor, engineer, CA etc.

If we change our focus on ourselves then Allah will send for us these kind of Amazing husbands.

And for those of you who are already married, my advice is the same.

Change yourselves first, add into your life qualities of the Sahaabiyah, and go back to Qur'aan and Sunnah and you will see Allah will put it in your  husbands heart to change as well.

The key to a happy life and a happy marriage is very simple yet effective, we complicate it.
And we look for happiness and peace in all the wrong places.

If we go back to basics, and start following Allahs commandments we will all live simpler happier lifes.

Insha'Allah.

I ask Allah to grant me firstly the ability to better myself and to become a better Muslim.

And I ask him to grant all of us who are not yet married spouses who love and are close to Him.
Spouses who will help us become closer to Him.
Spouses who will help us to attain Jannah.

آمين يارب العالمين

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