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Why so Defensive?

Why is it that nowadays we are all so unwilling to accept advice? Especially regarding to issues pertaining to Islamic / Deeni issues. We take on a defensive stance immediately.
And why do we assume that the person who is advising us claims to or thinks they are pious or that they are looking down on us. If someone corrects something we are doing, or they mention in some way that something we are doing is incorrect instead of taking  the advise we think or say things like “ everyone’s not as pious as you" or we might mention to someone else that “she/he thinks they very pious”etc.
Where as the person had no intention of sounding holy, nor do they think themselves better then you. Ever thought that maybe they were simply practicing on enjoining good and forbidding evil. 
We live in a world where doing good has become hard, its so easy to get caught up in evil. But now we've made it hard for people to even “enjoin what is good". We make them feel guilty and as if they are the ones doing something wrong. They are very few who are willing to speak up against wrong.
Because they are scared of what the reactions will be. We also prefer holding conversations on mundane things like sports, fashion, food etc but when it comes to things like Sahabah stories or Hadeeth then you find very few willing to engage with you willingly.
Another thing we do is we always using comparisons like “don’t judge, maybe a girl who doesn’t wear hijab is better then the girl who does or maybe the boy without a beard has better manners" etc.
Yes I agree, that could be the case they could definitely be better and we SHOULDN'T judge.
But, why does it seem like nowadays so often we look down on girls in Hijab/Niqab or Guys with beard, Kurta etc.
Where as what if THEY ARE better?
Our logic is warped, we say we shouldn’t judge and then we go ahead and judge a person if they speak out against wrong by assuming they think themselves superior or pious.
It is the duty of every Muslim to “Enjoin what is good and Forbid what is evil." This is our Deen we need to carry it, We have to take it to the people. It is not only the duty or responsibility of the Ulama, every single one of us should learn about our Deen (from authentic reliable sources and scholars) and impart what we learn to others.

Rasoolullah صلى الله على وسلم said(something to the effect): “The acquisition of (Deeni) knowledge is compulsory on every Muslim.” (Ibn Majah)

In another hadith

Rasoolullah صلى الله على وسلم said(something to the effect): “The noblest charity is that a Muslim acquires some knowledge (of Deen), then imparts it to a Muslim brother.(Ibn Majah)"

When someone corrects someone's wrong doing in a good and kind way then do not make them feel bad, because it will discourage them from doing it again and it makes them feel like they are doing something wrong.

Obviously we shouldn't just go and point out everyone’s faults and put them down and be harsh nor should we purposely seek out faults.
We should be kind in our approach. And if you advised or corrected them once or twice but they do not listen or they take offence then do not keep on telling them.
You did your duty by telling them, now you just make dua for them.
Every one of us had faults and we are all sinners no doubt but we can still encourage each other to improve.
والله أعلم..
May Allah guide me first and the whole Ummah…

Hadhrat Abu Saeed Khudri رضي الله عنه  Narrates from Rasoolullah صلى الله على وسلم that he said (something to the effect), “if any of you see any deed contrary to the Shariat being done, then he should change it with his hand (i.e he should stop the person doing that action with strength) and if he does not have the ability to change it with his hand, then he should strive to change it with his tongue (i.e he should advise and warn them of the punishment of Allah) and if he does not have the ability to change it with his tongue, then he should change it with his heart (i.e he should think it bad and make the resolution to change it) and this (final stage) is the weakest of Imaan… (narrated in Muslim)

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